A good friend said today that having a baby is one of the last selfish things that you do. Her point was that parenting in itself is a very selfless way of life. Most people have a baby because they want a baby – and well, once that little bundle of joy arrives your life is never quite the same. Being at your newborn’s beck and call day and night. Those babies are dependent on mommy and daddy… and as they grow, and mature, they are still dependent on the parents. I have seen mom’s and dad’s of grown children serve their children without a second thought. It amazes me every time. I don’t think I’m in that place quite yet. I wonder if I ever will be… I love my three children with all my heart and yet I’m stll quite the selfish woman. In fact, having the kids has shown me how selfish I am. I will always be thankful for that. I don’t want to be a selfish person, and yet at the same time I can’t seem to be able to give up myself completely to them either. I don’t want to lose who I am as an individual. I don’t think this is a wrong way of thinking, but I also don’t think that those parents who do give themselves entirely to their children are wrong either. There is something to be learned from them. And I’m still learning what that something is.
July 30, 2009...3:43 pm
random thoughts on parenting
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